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Shashi Tharoor, Sunanda case: No heroes, only victims here

Jan 21, 2014

The Shashi Tharoor, Sunanda episode has once again highlighted the challenges for single women in the society, writes Prateeksha Saba Sharma.

New Delhi: In the untimely demise of Sunanda Pushkar, there are no heroes and sadly enough the most unlikely victim is the Pakistani journalist- Mehr Tarar. Just for a moment let us focus on the fact that she is a single-woman who works from home and lives with her child, trying to pay her bills by using her skills. Everyone knows that in the world of business, everyone interacts with scores of others who are both married and single.

So why should one person who had interacted with another, among lakhs of others be singled out, for their public messages to one another?

Just because she interacted with Tharoor on a couple of occasions and connected with him on twitter cannot make her a suspect enough to merit an ISI inquiry into the matter of Sunanda’s death. The whole idea is like trying to fit the noose into the neck that fits it. What can be her contribution to a friction that a husband and wife had between them? Surely the friction did not arise because of her meeting with him, on the one or two occasions that she did. Even if she had met him on a hundred occasions, the fact that she was a single-woman, a Pakistani, and educated, articulate enough to come in contact with Tharoor, makes her an easy scapegoat, and a great target for those who want to settle scores with Pakistan.

However, there is another angle to this- the innate relationship between Tharoor and Sunanda. From the sense one got of it always, it was based on passion. Passionate people are prone to being jealous and often turn out to be possessive about their partners. It is quite clear that passion was the root of this relationship and the appearance of a real or imaginary adversary in Mehr Tarar, or possibly others like her, made tempers go flying in all directions.

Two women are involved in this, apart from the man, and the mental wellbeing of all was compromised. One to the extent that she was on prescription drugs, which does not ease matters in the least. The cause for concern arises from the fact that communication which is the key to solving relationship issues was sadly missing on all counts- between the married partners as well as between the outsider who seemed to be the catalyst.

The likelihood of Tharoor physically abusing Sunanda, if the marks on her body are to be considered, is remote. This seems a case of emotional upheaval and the inability of spouses to communicate, despite being so hugely successfully in all socially desirable ways. Of course it underscores the fact that even the educated people do not know how important it is to go and talk to psychologists and trained people about their interpersonal issues, neither they have an appreciation for the years of experience professionals have in dealing with such issues on a regular basis. Had they done that neither of them would have become victims, in which all stood to lose something significant.

Prateeksha Sharma is a classical musician and Director, Hamsadhwani Enterprises.

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